It is easy to notice when a relationship is slowly wearing down. It is enough with the change of attitudes that one of the two (or both) has in the relationship. But, if you knew that your partner thinks you are unfaithful, would you do something to avoid it or end the relationship?
In order to find the signals that characterize a person before being unfaithful, a group of researchers from Florida State University closely followed more than 400 newly married couples for three and a half years.
During all that time, they documented all kinds of details about their relationships, such as how satisfied they were with their marriage, if they thought that this commitment was long term, if they had been unfaithful and above all, if they were still together.
The investigation was based on two signals that they believe could be the key to discovering whether someone will be unfaithful:
1. The attention deviation (Attentional Disengagement)
2. The devaluation of a potential partner (Evaluative Devaluation of Potential Romantic Partners).
The detour of attention exposes the ability of a member of a couple to divert their attention from a person who might consider a romantic option. That is, they try to evade that person to “not raise suspicions” that they find attractive.
While the devaluation of a potential partner refers to the way in which an individual in a relationship denies how attractive another person is, especially if she is especially beautiful.
They were evaluated with couples through surveys and the demonstration of photographs of very attractive people. Once the time they took to divert their eyes was measured, they compared the data with the information they had about their relationship and discovered a trend: the individuals who deviated their eyesight were at least 50% less likely to have sex outside their marriage.
“The tendency to devalue or underestimate the attractiveness of a potential romantic partner also decreased the risk of infidelity and increased the likelihood of maintaining a relationship.Loyal people tend to evaluate their ‘romantic alternatives’ more negatively than infidels,” explained the researchers
THE QUALITY OF SEX IN THE RELATIONSHIP
One of the most unexpected findings of the study was the relationship between the quality of sex within the relationship and the propensity to be unfaithful. Contrary to what is normally thought, people who feel more sexually satisfied, tend to seek sex with other people.
According to the researchers, it is likely that positive feelings about sex such as trust, motivate some people to seek more sexual encounters not necessarily with their partner, they feel completely confident that they will do well.
In relation to the perception of its attractiveness regarding infidelity, the result changes depending on the sex. For example: women who consider themselves less attractive are more likely to have an affair, while men who define themselves as unattractive have the lowest odds.
But the study found that there is an even more revealing trend where you are more likely to be unfaithful. This is the time to describe how attractive their partners are: women who consider their partner “unattractive” do not usually commit infidelity and men who find their partner “unbelievable” have a high probability of betraying their relationship.